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Children enjoy helping and feeling independent. Think of some things your child
can do to help you at home or when you are out and about. They might put on their
shoes, carry an item, or hold your hand when crossing a street.


Tell your child that you need their help during the day. Ask them to help you by doing
one thing you know they can do, like put on their shoes. As they put on their shoes, be
sure to tell them what a big helper they are being.


Think of a new thing you would like your child to do. Once they can put on their shoes,
they may be ready to put on their socks AND shoes. Show them how to do their new skill
first. After a few days, have them try to do it on their own. If they get upset, gently help
them and practice more.


Your child may need you to show them how to do something new many times before they
are ready to do it on their own. Try this process: you do it for them, you help them do it,
then they do it on their own.


Ask your child to help you by doing two or three things in a row. You might ask them
to put on their socks, put on their shoes, and stand by the door to get ready to leave.
Following more than one instruction at a time is an important school readiness skill.



Your child is learning to follow instructions and build resiliency when a task is hard.
Resiliency is how well your child handles things that don’t go their way. Sometimes
children may want to give up. You can help your child keep going by practicing and doing
tasks again and again.

Following instructions is a life skill your child will need to be ready for kindergarten.
It is natural for your child to need help or not have the skills needed for some tasks.
Encourage them to keep trying, and they will get better and learn resiliency.

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